People have been telling me that to forgive and forget is a desirable trait since I can remember. Later on in life, it hasn't changed, but the "people" are inevitably the people that I'm supposed to forgive and what they did are what I'm supposed to forget about. Most things are easy to forgive and forget, but it's never about the easy ones, is it? It's always the big ones that matter and affect you more than you think it has.
For example, you can forgive someone for making a mistake and doing something that breaks your trust. The question then becomes, how do you forget that it happened? How is it so easy for everyone else to forget that the last time you depended on this person for something that mattered, it didn't happen?
What happens when the thing that's supposed to be forgotten is the complete breakdown of everything you've based your life on? There are some intangible things that you build your life on and around, take for granted, depend on, assume with an unshakable faith that it will be there when you need it. How do you forget the time that you reached for it and it wasn't?
I've learned to forgive the hurt, but how do you forget how much it hurt? How do you assume it wasn't just a lie?
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